Remember how I posted that 2 families from my agency got the go ahead to file their I600s for their referrals in Phu Tho? Remember that the remaining 4 cases were dependant on the outcome of these cases? Turns out that is another thing that just isn’t true. I got the official word from my agency on Friday that our referral will not be processed. This from an email from the Embassy:
Eric Alexander, Consular Chief, met with officials in Phu Tho this week and reached an agreement that will enable the Service to finish adjudication of the pending Phu Tho cases that have been filed with this office. Officials of Phu Tho and Dr. Long stated that these would be the only cases completed and that the United States is still barred from adopting children in this province. Because of the ban imposed by the government of Vietnam, this office will not accept any new petitions from Phu Tho.
I am not surprised by this news. I said good-bye in my heart awhile ago as I have known this baby wasn’t coming home for months and months. I hadn’t looked at her picture in a long time but pulled it out on Friday and said my final good-bye and wished her my love. Although I was saddened to hear the news I was actually relieved that the door is officially closed. Limbo is hell. Now I can fully move on. I feel quite sure this baby is already babbling in Italian or French by now. I think she probably left the orphanage awhile ago.
So now, it’s a new road to baby! Probably a domestic road. Since we are still trying to sell our home (yes, 6 months later) I am not going to update our homestudy until we move. Domestic is scary but I am looking forward to getting started. I think I need to come up with a new blog title and look. A fresh start. I am open to all types of suggestions, agency recommendations, sites for cool blog templates, etc. I plan to start my Etsy Friday’s again. It seems that was well liked.
Thank you to everyone who still visits my blog and has emailed me personally to check in. You guys are awesome.
Oh, I am so sorry! So very, very sorry. But the limbo is hell, and I admire you for being able to see the closure of that as a silver lining. Best of luck as you figure out your new road. I will keep following along.
I’m so sorry. Good luck with your new direction.
I am so sorry to hear this. I wish you all the best as you venture down your new path.
I am so so sorry. Your attitude seems good and I think a new direction will help too. I have actually really investigated the domestic adoption option when we thought recently that we might go that route (and still might!) and have already picked out an agency here in Texas that I think is really ethical and sound. Email me privately, if you want the info.
I am so glad to read an update from you. I check in all the time for news, but I am so sorry Elizabeth that the news you got was not good. It sounds as if you found peace and are looking positively to the future. I have sent you a couple of e-mails and hoped you received them, I wanted you to know I have been thinking of you.
Take Care,
Tamara
i am so sorry to read your news. i am glad you are staying positive despite such very hard news… thank you for updating us. i will be reading and hopefully good news is just around the corner…
I’m so sorry for your loss. Keeping you in my thoughts as you move forward. Thank you for the update and hope we can keep in touch.
I am so sorry
My heart breaks for all of those families who have had to say goodbye to their referrals 
I hope your road to domestic adoption is swift and painless-you certainly deserve it!
I am so sorry that this has happened to you, but I am glad that you finally received some closure and can move forward.
I am so very sorry to hear this has happened to you. I admire your strength. Good luck with moving forward, I am sending positive thoughts your way.
I am so glad you will be back to doing Etsy Fridays!!!!
i am really sorry to read this but i am glad you have some final word on it and aren’t stuck in limbo wondering. sending you my hopes of a wonderful future and the child you dream of.
all the best.
leslie
I’m very sorry for your loss, but glad that you finally have closure. I wish you the best with your new adoption path.
I am sorry to hear that news. That is not what I wanted to hear but good luck with your new adoption path!
That is very sad. I will pray for you guys. Good things will come, they always do. We are living in limbo and it is very hard.
you crushed me.
i am so sorry to hear your news…
even when you “know” it’s coming,
it is still hard to swallow.
looking forward to a new etsy friday!
and a great, new adventure.
xoxo
I am so sorry.
I am so sorry for you. What a heartbreaking ending to your adoption journey. My thoughts are with you as you start your new journey closer to home.
I am very sorry to hear this; as I am sure you are. but limbo is he!!, so at least you know something and can start anew. Let us know your new blog address. Good luck with everytyhing.
I am so, so sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you as you start your new journey.
I am so sorry for your loss. At least with closure you are willing to begin anew with a domestic adoption. I applaud you for having the strength to move forward and wish you all the best. I am looking forward to Etsy Fridays again!!
I am so sorry to hear this. We just ended our adoption journey for different reasons but we feel just a bit better for having some closure after being in limbo for 7 months. I do think that there are great things coming to us in the future.
I’m so sorry. That is heartbreaking news. I’m looking forward to hearing about your new journey.
Liz,
Glad there has been some resolution for you–but so sad that you are not bringing your baby home. I do know that your little one is out there. I hope you will continue to post on your journey.
Stay positive. You will become a mom!
I am so sorry. I wish you all the best on your new path and hope to check in and find you with great news in the near future.
I am very sorry to hear this news. I only found your blog a few months ago and was waiting and checking back as I so hoped things would work out for you. I am happy you have found the closure you need to move forward and I wish you nothing but the best as you begin your new journey. We have dear friends who are in the domestic program, and while it can be scary, it brings wonderful rewards!